Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind Newsletter
Issue Date: February 15, 2003
Inside this issue:
> TAKING BACK CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE
-Claiming Your Power to Choose-
> "CLEANING OUT THE CLOSET OF YOUR MIND FOR WEALTH"
IS NOW ON AMAZON!
> TELECONFERENCE CALL ON MANIFESTING FEBRUARY 27TH
> FOR WOMEN ONLY SPHERES CIRCLE-OF-RINGS AND WOMEN'S
FAIRE MARCH 1ST!
> "HOW YOUR MIND CAN HEAL YOUR BODY"
> DO YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW POWERFUL YOUR MIND IS?
> DO YOU WANT TO BECOME AN ENLIGHTENED MILLIONAIRE?
TAKING BACK CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE -Claiming Your
Power to Choose-
"You must have the consciousness for that which
is desired. Without the consciousness, it cannot come to you.
With the consciousness, it must come." - John Randolph Price in
The Success Book
As you know, I talk to a lot of people and so many
these days are feeling that their life is out of control mentally,
emotionally, physically, or spiritually. People are losing jobs,
aren't earning the income they'd thought they would this month,
don't know where the rent money is coming from for next month,
are experiencing health problems, are experiencing some intense
emotional ups and downs, and the list goes on. There seems to
almost be a heightened awareness of or sensitivity to changes
that are going on in our lives and the world around us.
Yes, there is a lot of talk of war, there is a lot
of talk of conflict, there is a lot of talk about potential warfare
on the home front, there is a lot of talk about economic challenge,
and yet I'm going to tell you that it is your choice as to what
reality you experience. Peace and harmony, or war and conflict.
The choice is yours, and war is not inevitable.
If this has been your experience lately, let's try
to nip this is in the bud before you move from feeling out of
control to acting out of control. My focus for many years now
has been on guiding people to understand that they are in control
of their lives and helping them to take back control. Many people
feel they have lost the power of choice and that life is just
happening without any participation from them. This is a reminder
for some of you, but that is a victim consciousness that does
not support you in taking control of your life and creating what
you desire and deserve. In the past, when I've talked about the
way millionaires think, the attitude that's consistent is that
millionaires take responsibility for everything that happens in
their lives. There is no such thing as a millionaire victim.
Responsibility is the ability to respond to life
around you. It's not a burden it's a privilege and an opportunity
that we can take advantage of when we move out of the victim consciousness.
We are, in fact, creating everything we are experiencing whether
it's conscious or unconscious.
I'm going to use myself as an example here to illustrate
the point. When I was a young girl, I learned that if I was sick
I had a chance to escape from life and the chaos around me. Living
in a dysfunctional, often violent, home gave me the perfect opportunity
to play this out. Sometime in elementary school around the third
grade, I began to develop fevers. The school I went to would send
me home if I had a fever, so my mother began to take my temperature
almost every morning. Both of my parents worked, so I had a "time
out" from life when I stayed home alone. It was glorious. Actually,
it got to the point where my fevers were so predictable that I
used to help them along. If I wanted a day off, I would get up
early, boil water, and drink it just before my mother got up.
Then, I would take my temperature and show her the thermometer
so I could stay home. What I learned through this was that by
being "sick" I was allowed to take time off. In the house I grew
up in, no one understood needing a break or a time out but they
respected sick. This "knowing" has been a way of my operating
through much of my life. I was sick continuously throughout my
second marriage as a way to escape from the life I was living.
I don't get sick often now. Usually when I do, it's
an indication that I haven't been taking care of myself. Last
week, I got sick in the midst of a lot of tension and stress related
to business. Specifically, the stress related to the internet
marketing company that I had been working with and the search
to find a new company to move forward with. In retrospect, I can
see that I felt I needed a "time out" and I took it by allowing
my body to become ill. In other words, I got exactly what I chose
to experience. As soon as I decided I didn't need that experience,
the sickness went away to a large degree only lingering enough
to allow myself to have the "permission" to play for three days
in a row. Can I tell you that when I was playing I didn't feel
sick at all?
Let's look at another example. Yes, let me go straight
to the internet marketing company, owned and operated by men,
that sent out a letter under my name without my approval or authorization.
My underlying belief for a long time has been that I can't trust
men and that they don't listen to me.
This has played out in a number of ways. In this
particular case, the interactions I had completely validated my
belief system, or my choice. Most importantly, as I looked back
at my conversation notes, there was a point in time where I knew
things weren't going right and I overlooked the warning signals
because I received the verbal assurance from the man in charge
that everything was going perfectly. I wasn't paying attention
to my own inner guidance and I allowed the words I wanted to hear
to allow me to trust when I should have been questioning. As a
follow up to this scenario, I want to reassure you that I AM listening
to myself more now, and more importantly I am trusting my instincts.
I am also making a conscious choice that the men in my life are
people who respect and admire me, and are people I can trust.
What you think leads to your feelings, your feelings
lead to your actions, and your actions lead to the results you
experience in life. If you don't like the results in your life,
clean out the closet of your mind to remove the emotional triggers
that are creating the "out of control" feelings, or fear, in your
life. Fear can be paralyzing, stopping us from taking any action
at all. All of your fear reactions are based on thoughts that
you have associated with an emotional response. I'm going to encourage
you to take control of your thoughts even more so than ever before!
Every moment of every day you are either attracting
success, peace, and happiness or repelling them based on your
thoughts. Remember, you mind can work for you or against you.
Consciously choose to have a successful, peaceful, happy, healthy
Okay, so some of you out there might be asking:
is it really that easy? The answer is no. It's simple, but I'm
not saying it's easy. Consciously choosing to focus your thoughts
on powerful, positive images is not the easiest thing to do when
there's so much energy and attention on some of the negatives
in the world. But I can tell you that what you focus on, what
you give attention to grows and expands in your life. What you
ignore, or don't pay attention to, is certain to fade away from
lack of attention.
As Wallace G. Wattles says in "The Science of Getting
Rich", "And to think what you want to think is to think TRUTH,
regardless of appearances. Every individual has the natural and
inherent power to think what he wants to think, but it requires
far more effort to do so than it does to think the thoughts which
are suggested by appearances. To think according to appearances
is easy; to think truth regardless of appearances is laborious
and requires the expenditure of more power than any other work
we are called upon to perform. There is no labor from which most
people shrink as they do from that of sustained and consecutive
thought. It is the hardest work in the world. This is especially
true when truth is contrary to appearances."
Here are some tips to help you if any of this rings
a bell for you now:
1. First of all, remember that when your body is
sick, your mind is sick. We don't have the same mental or physical
resources to ward off negative thinking when we are challenged
by an illness. I ignore most of what my mind is telling me when
I'm sick and just focus on thoughts like "I am healthy", "Everything
I need to heal is being provided to me", "I deserve to be healthy".
Then, I take the action to support these beliefs: rest when you
need to, eat well, drink lots of fluids, and nurture yourself.
2. If you're still reading the newspapers and watching
television news, greatly reduce it or eliminate it all together.
The news is stirring up a lot of fear-based stories and emotions
right now. If you want to be full of fear, watch it. If you want
to be more peaceful, don't. It's your choice. Trust me, if something
really earth-shattering happens someone will let you know. Better
yet, try reading an inspirational book or listening to a meditation
tape that will support you in feeling more comfortable, calm,
3. Stop blaming others. Remember, when you're pointing
a finger at someone else there are three pointing back at you.
Take responsibility for what you can change and accept what you
can't. It's often helpful to remember the words of Reinhold Niebuhr,
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."
4. Stop complaining. What you focus on expands and
what you don't pay attention to dies from neglect. If you're complaining,
your focus is on what you've decided (another action of your mind)
is wrong in your life. You're certain to draw more of the same
to you. Even more compelling, because like attracts like, you'll
be drawing other people to you who are complaining, too. Break
the cycle and choose to focus on what's great in your life, what
you have to be grateful for. The shift is dramatic and profound.
5. Get rid of "can't", "don't", "won't", "want",
"hope", "will", "if", "try", "but", "not", and "should". "Can't",
"don't", and "won't" are self-defeating. Move into the positive
by stating what you can and are doing. "Want" and "hope" are words
that imply that you're not in control. Use the word "choose".
"Will" keeps what you desire in the future. Your goal is to be
present in the present, so use the phrase "I am". "Try" and "if"
are really telling you that you probably won't do something. They
imply failure. Just "do" it, don't debate it or open the door
for doubt. "But" is just a word that creates an excuse and negates
whatever you said or thought before it. Use the word "and" instead.
"Not" is a word that carries something you don't want. If you
say, "I will not be angry today", what do you think your mind
hears? You've got it. Your mind hears "angry today". Change your
words to positive endorsements such as "I am calm peaceful, and
at ease with myself and others." "Should" is a judgmental word
that tells you somehow you haven't quite measured up. Affirm yourself,
don't shame yourself.
While we're at this, lose the word "lose". Remember
your subconscious mind wants to protect you so you can survive.
So many people "lose" weight and what does the subconscious mind
do? It goes out and finds the weight and even adds more to make
sure you'll never "lose" it again! Gain freedom, release, let
go of, but don't lose something. You'll be sure to draw it right
back to you.
6. Last, but certainly not least, take extremely
good care of yourself. Get enough rest. Drink enough water. Eat
regular, balanced, healthy meals. Exercise at least four times
a week. Have fun! Reach out to others to make sure they have a
good day (it's the best way to make sure you have one!). Spend
some time in nature. Light a candle. Read an inspiring book. Listen
to your body and tend to its needs. Be gentle with yourself.
Remember that the one thing we are guaranteed in
life is change. Whatever you're experiencing, whether you see
it as good or bad, WILL change. Make the choices today that will
create positive changes in the days, weeks, months, and years
With warm wishes,
Debbie Friedman, C.Ht.
"CLEANING OUT THE CLOSET OF YOUR
MIND FOR WEALTH" IS NOW ON AMAZON!
Yes! My CD series is now available on Amazon.com!
"Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind for Wealth" is a series
of 8 CDs that allows you to relax, release, and let go of limiting
beliefs, programming, and old ideas that have held you back in
the past so that you can bring in powerful, positive beliefs to
live a life of true wealth and unlimited financial success!
In as little as 25 minutes a day you can tap into
the power of your subconscious mind to create powerful, life-changing
results in your life. Use them whenever you want, wherever you
want (except in the car!), and as often as you want to start getting
more of what you want out of life!
Take back control of your life by tapping into the
power of your subconscious mind!
TELECONFERENCE CALL ON MANIFESTING
"The ability to manifest to take one's visions,
dreams, hopes and fantasies and make them real is one of the
most important skills people can learn to empower themselves and
become greater lights to the world around them" - Sanaya Roman
in Creating Money
Are you manifesting what you really want? We all
manifest in our lives, whether it's what we consciously want or
what we say we don't want. Learn to be more effective and consistent
with what YOU manifest! On Thursday February 27th from 7 p.m.
8 p.m. I will be presenting a teleconference on "Manifesting
- The Step-By-Step Process For The Secret Of Success", hosted
by Christine Kloser of NEW Entrepreneurs. In this one hour call,
I will teach you the recipe of the 9 simple steps for manifesting
that will change your life forever! Time willing, I will guide
you through the process so you can experience the powerful technique.
There will also be time for a dialogue and exchange so come prepared
with your questions and concerns! For more information and to
sign up, visit www.newentrepreneurs.com.
FOR WOMEN ONLY SPHERES CIRCLE-OF-RINGS
AND WOMEN'S FAIRE MARCH 1ST!
I will be at this event at Temescal State Park in
Pacific Palisades with my CD series, enjoying the chance to connect
with some very wonderful women. This event has been created by
Deborah K. Mitchell, one of my loving friends, and founder of
Direct Konnections P.R. and Spheres, Women's Circles Publications.
It's a day of health, personal development, and heart connections
as well as a chance to participate in the lighting of the world-famous
"Peace Candle". To find out more and to sign up, call Deborah
"HOW YOUR MIND CAN HEAL YOUR BODY"
Time Magazine presented a special issue on January
20, 2002 on "How Your Mind Can Heal Your Body". This very powerful
issue discusses a number of topics that remind you that the power
to heal is inside of you. It's wonderful to see this information
presented at last in a major publication that will, hopefully,
raise the awareness of many. As you may know, the American Medical
Association approved hypnosis as an effective treatment in 1958
and recommended that it be taught in medical schools. More recently,
the National Institute of Health has been conducting a number
of studies on the effectiveness of hypnosis for healing and the
documented results have been very powerful! As research continues
in many areas to remind us that we are not at the mercy of modern
medicine for healing in our lives, I encourage you to pick up
a copy of this issue if you find it interesting. The issue was
sold out nationwide, but Time is taking backorders for a reprinted
edition. Call 800.541.1000 to order yours.
DO YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW POWERFUL
YOUR MIND IS?
If you've ever wanted to try bending spoons, James
Twyman is offering an online course to teach you how! The purpose
of the course is to guide you to understand the power of your
mind to change the world. I can only tell you from personal experience
that this is an amazingly wonderful process! For more information,
visit the website at www.emissaryoflight.com/spoonbendersclass.htm.
DO YOU WANT TO BECOME AN ENLIGHTENED
If you haven't read The One Minute Millionaire by
Mark Victor Hansen and Robert G. Allen, it's on the top of my
list of suggestions. This incredible book combines fiction and
non-fiction all in one to provide you with the practical tools
to make 2003 the best yet! As many of you know, I have been in
the Enlightened Millionaire Program since July of last year and
I have had the privilege of being mentored by both of these men.
I can only tell you that this program and the mentoring, skills
and tools that I have received are incredibly powerful and transformational!
Feel free to call me if you have any questions. In the meantime,
get a jump start on the year by taking advantage of the opportunity
to learn some definite and valuable lessons from this book.
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