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Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind Newsletter

Issue Date: April 15, 2003

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I wasn't entirely sure what I needed to write about until I spent last weekend with someone who was a mountain of fear.

Fear seems to be running rampant through our lives at this point in time as people focus on the war, the economy, job security, and threats to our health. Hardly a day goes by when I don't hear someone talking about how full of fear they are because of the war, how many companies are laying off employees, how afraid they are about their financial situation, or how they simply don't have enough clients or business to support themselves. I have seen people who are terrified and terrorized by the fearful thoughts they are carrying around in their heads.

How do you become immune to fear? The truth is you don't. Fear is a natural, normal, and necessary response from our subconscious designed to protect us in life so that we can survive. It's our internal warning system, alerting us to potential dangers so we can sidestep the hazards of life and living. Fear is healthy and helpful when we use it as a way to avoid accidents or potential danger. The effects are temporary and we gain greater confidence as we learn to trust our instincts and our abilities to take care of ourselves.

It's what you do with fear that makes all the difference. Is the fear real or only imagined as you project into the future? Are you inviting fear into your life to camp out in the closet of your mind? Here's an important guiding question that I've found helpful: Is fear controlling you or are you in control of your fear?

Fear is corrosive and disabling on the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual levels. When we allow ourselves to be dominated by fear, we begin to procrastinate and eventually become paralyzed. Worse yet, perhaps, it has been proven in scientific studies that fear, and its cousins stress and anger, produce toxic chemicals and damaging effects in our bodies. It's time to remember that every moment is a choice, and every choice has its consequences and benefits.

The worst thing about fear is that it isn't real. It's only a creation of the mind. In the moment, we tend to forget that. The truth is that anything we fear is a projection into the future. It never really exists in our lives, so we end up wasting countless hours and precious energy focusing on something that never comes to pass. We've probably all heard the acronym for FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real. Choose to create your own reality.

Add to that the fact that if we choose to focus on fear, we are drawing more fear into our lives. What we put out into the Universe comes back to us magnified. How much more productive would it be to give our attention and our intentions to what we CAN do, rather than what we have no control or power over? In "A Return to Love" Marianne Williamson tells us that "Fear in your mind produces fear in your life. This is the meaning of true hell. Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here. The spiritual journey is the relinquishment, or unlearning, of fear and the acceptance of love back into our hearts." Choose love.

Here are some tips on handling fear:

1. Blaming doesn't work. When you're pointing a finger at someone else, there are three fingers pointing back at you. Rather than wasting your time and your energy looking for someone or something to blame for your present circumstance, take a look at those three fingers pointing back at you and ask yourself what you're doing to be responsible for your life and happiness. After you've asked yourself that question, and hopefully found some answers, start to make the changes in your actions and attitudes that will create more of what you really want in your life. Responsibility is not a burden, it's a privilege. It's the ability to respond, rather than unconsciously react, to events in our lives.

2. Fear faced is fear erased. As my wonderful friend Clare says, "When we do the thing we fear and dread the most, we grow." If you are full of fear about something in your life, walk through the fear by taking the actions you need to get to the other side. Imagine what you would do if you knew absolutely that you could not fail, that you were being supported by the Universe, and that you could not screw up! Continue to move through and beyond your fears, each and every one. Your self-confidence and self-esteem will soar, and you just might find out what you're truly capable of.

3. Another friend, Janeece, told me once "Fear is the darkroom where my negatives are developed." Think about that one for a moment. When you're in a place of fear everything that is negative expands, sometimes to the point where it's hard to see or think of anything else. In the movie "A Beautiful Mind" John Nash says "I think that's what it's like with all our dreams and our nightmares. You've got to keep feeding them for them to stay alive." A while later in the movie, he says "Like a diet of the mind, I choose not to indulge certain appetites." How brilliant!

Do the same in your own life! Stop feeding your fears and negative thoughts by making a conscious decision to only take in, or digest, what nurtures and supports you. On a practical level, stop watching the television, reading the newspapers, listening to people who are spreading fearful ideas, and don't spend time with people who are sharing their fearful energy. It's your choice. It's your life.

4. The opposite of fear is faith. You cannot be in fear and in faith at the same time. I remember one time when a very dear friend told me that I was the epitome of arrogance because I didn't particularly like what was happening in my life at that time. She reminded me that if I was judging what was happening in my life, I was telling God that he wasn't doing such a great job. I was, in fact, arrogant because I thought I knew better than God what was right for me in my life at that time. I was looking at the moment with a very narrow vision and couldn't see the bigger picture.

Ultimately, I was able to see the blessings in that situation and realized that everything was happening perfectly. In practical terms, worry is praying for something you don't want. There's a famous saying that I'd like to remind you of: "Courage is fear that has said it's prayers." Here's another thought I'd like to share: If you worry, why pray? If you pray, why worry?

5. Here's a key to remember. Fear comes in two basic varieties: fear that we will lose something that we have or fear that we won't get something that we want. Ask yourself what the worst thing is that could happen if your fear came true. Then ask yourself how you would handle it. Would you ask someone for help? Would you move in a different direction? Would you, perhaps, have to simplify your life? Inevitably we find that if that if we look at what is producing our fear, we find a way to respond that isn't nearly as painful as the fear experience itself. Focus on the solution rather than the problem.

6. Last, but not least, I'm going to be shamelessly self-promoting for a moment by reminding you about one of the very powerful CDs in the "Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind for Wealth" series: Gaining Freedom from Fear. This CD helps you to tap into the power of your subconscious mind to remove and eliminate fears that have been holding you back in life and gain courage, strength, faith, and a positive mental attitude. If you want to get rid of your fears, excuses, "I can't" problems, and blocks to your financial success, this CD is an amazingly tool! You can purchase the CD directly from my website at www.cleaningoutthecloset.com and receive a personal consultation or you can purchase from Amazon by searching for Debbie Friedman, C.Ht.

Stand calm in faith. Take the actions you need to. Ask for help. Project love and kindness out into the world. Give thanks for what you have been blessed with. Focus your thoughts, feelings, and emotions on what you desire in your life. Make good, conscious choices. Most of all, expect the very best life has to offer because you deserve it!

With peace, love, and blessings,
Debbie Friedman, C. Ht.


Well, as a follow up to the Manifesting newsletter last month, I want to let you know that Mark Victor Hansen, coauthor of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series, has endorsed my CD series. Here's what Mark has to say:

"Awesome! Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind is a series of CDs that will help you obtain true wealth and abundance by enlightening the subconscious mind."

- Mark Victor Hansen Co-creator, #1 New York Times best-selling series Chicken Soup for the Soul Co-author, The One Minute Millionaire

Thank you, Mark!


I'm very excited to announce that all nine of the "Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind" CDs are now available on Amazon. The CDs sell for $22.99 on Amazon. Be sure to search for me as Debbie Friedman, C.Ht. To give you a option as you purchase, I am continuing to sell the CDs for $34.75 on my website with a special offer included: you can choose to have a free 15-minute phone consultation or 5 personal email responses for each CD that you purchase. You DO have a choice!


Some of you might have heard me talking about the amazingly disgusting experience I had at the Conscious Living Expo in Los Angeles! I sat down for 30 minutes with my feet in some water and all of this really gross and crummy stuff was released into the water. I couldn't believe what came out of my body!

The first time I used the BCFE (Bio-Cleanse Field Enhancement System), the water was full of thick layers of fat that I apparently don't process very well. On top of that, there were black flakes, rusty colored chemicals and a very foul smell! The second time I used it, there were more black flakes and rusty colored chemicals but the smell was so gross I couldn't even lean my head over to look at the water. One of the women I was with released a parasite! Everyone who experienced the treatment was amazed at how many disgusting things they'd been holding in their bodies. Best yet, though, everyone went away feeling lighter and more energized.

In my practice, I help people to detox their minds and release stress from their bodies. The BCFE is a perfect complement, I think, to help people detox their bodies as well. I've often shown with muscle testing how negative emotions weaken your body and more recent scientific studies have shown that negative thoughts, emotions, and stress can create toxins in your body. Think of the toxins you might have built up over your lifetime from what you breathe, what you eat, what you drink, what you experience, what you feel, and what you think.

The BCFE is the latest in whole-body health technologies developed as a therapeutic aid for detoxification, relaxation, and total well-being. It is currently the only method for creating a bio-charge that is both safe and compatible with living matter. With water interacting with a compound electric current and a compatible magnetic field, your cells open up to release toxins and excess waste products into your lymphatic system where they are released through the cells in the bottom of your feet into the water bath.

This is an experience you don't want to miss! As a special introduction for everyone, I will be offering a 30-minute treatment for $20 through the month of May. The full 40-minute session will be offered at $50. To schedule an appointment, call me at (310) 230-0872.


An Empowerment Program for Women in Transition - Join this unique support group and life-changing program that empowers women in transition to create the life they desire and deserve. Learn powerful tools that will help you manage stress, build confidence, focus your vision, cope with change, set and meet goals, heal your mind/body/spirit, magnetize prosperity and abundance, and shape your new future. This 8-week series includes a one-hour individual consultation and all workshop materials. The new group starts Wednesday May 7th. Space is limited to provide an intimate, nurturing environment. Investment: $395. To reserve your place or for more information call (310) 230-0872.

Developing Your Intuition - Based on the work of Edgar Cayce and developed by Dr. Henry Reed, former Director of Research for the Edgar Cayce Foundation, this series is designed to help you lead a more harmonious life by experiencing your intuition, recognizing it, and, above all, trusting it. In this six-week class you will learn specific methods for receiving intuitive guidance, learn how to access your intuition reliably to get meaningful results, and come to trust your intuition as a valuable guide. Classes in the new series start Monday May 5th. Investment: $300. To reserve your place or for more information call (310) 230-0872.


In the last week, I found out that someone was trying to steal my identity by writing counterfeit checks. I won't go into the details here, but I wanted to share some information that I found helpful as I filed my police report.

First of all, the Los Angeles Police Department has an excellent Quick Reference Guide on Identity Theft. I was also told that they have an entire division devoted to this now since it has become so common.

If you haven't checked your credit in a while, you might want to order a copy of your credit report from the three credit bureaus: Equifax at 800.685.1111, Experian at 888.397.3742, and Trans Union at 800.916.8800.

If you want to opt out of pre-approved credit lists call 888.567.8688. If you want to remove your name from direct mail lists email www.the-dma.org. If you want to remove your name from telephone lists email www.the-dma.org. If you want to remove your name from email lists go to www.e-mps.org.

If you want more information on Identity Theft contact the Identity Theft Resource Center at www.idtheftcenter.org or Privacy Rights Clearinghouse at www.privacyrights.org.

You can contact Debbie Friedman, C.Ht. at info@cleaningoutthecloset.com or contact her directly at (310) 230-0872. Send this newsletter to all your friends, family and associates! Your friends can subscribe to the Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind newsletter by visiting www.cleaningoutthecloset.com. Your subscription email address will be kept in the strictest confidence. We do not release or share information to any third parties. The contents of this newsletter may be copied, reproduced, or freely distributed for all non-profit purposes without the consent of the author as long as the author's name and contact information are included. All contents

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