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Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind Newsletter

Issue Date: September 20, 2003

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There's the saying that if Life throws you lemons, make lemonade. Well, I don't know about you, but sometimes in the really challenging moments of life it's a hard concept for me to wrap my brain around. Every experience in our lives is a blessing and a gift, yet there are those times when I wish someone else could be blessed for once. It's in those precious moments that we can be reminded of our greatest lessons. I'd like to share an example.

Let me start this story by telling you that I registered for a conference about six weeks ago and couldn't get a room at the conference hotel, so I booked a room at a major chain in the town.

I checked in after a two-hour drive, absolutely looking forward to the experiences I was about to have.

There was trash in the hallways. The elevator didn't have any ventilation and was like a heat chamber. Then I got to my room.

As I walked in, I knew this wasn't for me. It smelled musty and moldy, I could see water stains on the carpet, there was an orange light bulb in the bathroom, a three-quarter closet so my clothes were hanging on the floor, and I couldn't open the sliding door to air the room out because there wasn't a screen door. The toilet paper roller didn't work and there was only one washcloth hanging over the towel bar. I was getting sick to my stomach from the air. When I called the front desk, she said it was a standard room and that all of their rooms were the same.

I can only tell you that I lost it. All the calm and peace that I'd had were gone. I was really angry. I became intent on finding another room somewhere - anywhere - else and started to make calls. Obsessively. I didn't know why this was happening to me, but I knew I didn't like it. Every hotel I called was fully booked or closed. Finally, at 11:30 I decided to surrender and stay one night. More importantly, I decided to change my attitude.

I went to sleep with my vision of a wonderful room and the perfect experience for this conference. I talked to the Universe and turned this problem over to Divine Source. I affirmed my faith that the perfect hotel room would be provided and that I would be joyful. I was grateful for the room that I knew they were preparing for me, even though I didn't understand why this awful room had come to me to experience.

When I woke up in the morning, I had flea bites all over one of my legs. Did I need any more confirmation that this wasn't where I belonged? I made coffee, then sat down and asked for guidance, knowing that it would come. I picked up the information packet I'd received and saw that I'd written down the number of the conference hotel. I called.

The woman in reservations was sympathetic, but told me that she had a two-page waiting list for rooms and couldn't help me. I explained that I had flea bites on my leg - did she have ANY suggestions? She put me on hold and then came back to tell me that she could give me a room. I fairly gushed with joy and got to work.

Packing my car, I went to check out. Because I'd had such a miserable experience (and the flea bites to prove it!) the manager didn't charge me for my room. What an unexpected surprise!

I got to the conference hotel, which had just been renovated, and felt a magical glow. Everything was so nice and civilized and clean. I unpacked my car (three trips) and found my conference room right downstairs. I was there with time to spare. From phone call to conference meeting, less than one hour. Easy, effortless, joyful.

So, what's the point of all this? Life happens and sometimes it seems to throw us curves. Escrows don't close on time, cars break down, deals don't go through when we think they should. That's part of the adventure. There's also tragedy. Death, hurricanes, divorce, loss of work. It's what you do in those moments of the curves, tragedies, or seeming obstacles that makes the difference.

It's what you believe about those events in life and the actions you take based on those beliefs. Do you allow yourself to become trapped and defeated by fears, stress, and victim mentalities? Or, do you pause to restore yourself and regain your inner peace, inner strength, and stability?

These are the moments of our opportunities. Sometimes, I think, these things happen so that we can reaffirm, clarify and strengthen our faith and our beliefs. Sometimes these things happen so we can remember that we have the choice of how we will experience this world. Sometimes delays are preparing us for an even better experience than we had imagined or are protecting us from something we really didn't want to begin with. (See the section on Bruce Lipton for information on how science is proving that our beliefs change our biology.)

How do you see the world around you? Is it friendly, kind, and loving to you? Do you feel supported? Are you willing to take responsibility for your life and your experiences? Or have you taken on a victim mentality and the belief that things are just "happening" to you? Are you allowing other peoples limiting beliefs to limit your life?

Are you willing to give up your old, negative beliefs and habits to embrace a positive, powerful way of living? When things aren't going the way you thought they should, are you choosing to stay focused on the vision of what you know is the truth?

Our beliefs and our choices build our life. Believe in yourself and the lovingness of the Universe. Make powerful, positive choices for your life. Don't let anyone or anything hold you back from your vision. Live your life with excitement, joy, love, and the certainty that life is rich and abundant. YOU deserve it!

With love and blessings,
Debbie Friedman, C.Ht.

"We cannot find peace if we are afraid of the windstorms of life."
- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross


For those of you who don't know Bruce, he is a cellular and developmental biologist who presents compelling evidence based on scientific studies to show that our beliefs control our biology and our lives.

Through an in-depth study of research, Bruce has compiled a tremendous amount of evidence that we are not victims of our genes and we do not have to live at the mercy of modern medicine. Instead, our beliefs control our behavior, control our genes, and actually can rewrite our genes in response to the way we view the world.

The work he presents includes studies showing changes in the size of areas of our brain based on emotional perceptions. Specifically, fear and stress cause the body to reduce the blood supply to our forebrain, where intelligence is active, to supply the rear brain which is ready to operate the muscles of our arms and legs for a flight or fight response. We actually become less intelligent when we believe we are in a stress condition. When we are feeling joy and love, the blood supply to your forebrain is increased so you have a heightened ability to think, create, and process information.

This is only a taste of Bruce's work. I can only tell you that as a former Biology professor, I was fascinated with the studies that showed the fundamental ideas we've been teaching for years cannot possibly be true!

Makes sense when you see it all. For more information on Bruce and his work, visit his website at www.brucelipton.com.

"What you are, the world is. And without your transformation, there can be no transformation in the world."
- J. Krishnamurti


For those of you who are interested in finding out more about how our thoughts and the collective consciousness can change our world, I'm going to pass along information on two organizations that are making a difference in the world.

The Institute of Noetic Sciences (IONS) was founded 30 years ago by Edgar Mitchell after his celebrated moonwalk to understand the wholeness and interconnectedness of life, and the power of the mind. Searching for solutions to the problems that face us, their "goal is to develop a deeper comprehension of human experience in order to help build a global society in which reason and spirit are fully integrated." In easy terms, these are the folks who are doing the scientific research that proves that we are evolving as a species and as a planet, and what that means to us all in practical terms. For more information, visit www.noetic.org.

The Association for Global New Thought (AGNT) is a leading edge organization with the purpose "to consciously bring forth the evolving human and an awakened world through the practice of universal spiritual principles and the energy of unconditional love." For more information on AGNT, visit their website at www.agnt.org.

"I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality."
- Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.


As many of you know, I am a long-standing member of NEW Entrepreneurs founded by my friend, Christine Kloser. The Network for Empowering Women Entrepreneurs has been, and continues to be, a powerful, guiding force in my life as I meet women who are moving forward on their path to success. (For more information on NEW, visit the website at www.newentrepreneurs.com or call Christine at 310.745.0794).

I'm excited to let you know about EMERGE, an organization that has recently been founded by my friend, Deborah Deras! EMERGE is a networking association for professionals, entrepreneurs and women from all cultures and walks of life seeking to surround themselves with passionate, positive and powerful women. T

he Emerge Foundation is a 501 C(3) to empower at-risk youth to pursue business ventures as a result of participating in their mentorship and scholarship programs.

They have networking events the third Thursday of the month at the Best Western in Marina del Rey. For more information about their community and fun events, go to www.e-mergeonline.com or call them at 310.967.2006.

"Your mind is your world. Your thoughts are the tools with which you carve our life story on the substance of the universe. When you rule your mind, you rule your world. When you choose your thoughts, you choose results..."
- Imelda Shanklin


October 9: Pacific Palisades, CA
Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind with Debbie Friedman
Discover how your mind works, what's held you back in the past, and what you can do to take control of your life today so that you can live the life you desire and deserve tomorrow! For registration and more information, click here.
No charge

October 25: Santa Monica, CA
Wealth Building Strategies For Soulful Entrepreneurs

NEW Entrepreneurs is proud to present this seminar with Debbie Allen, author "Confessions of Shameless Self-Promoters", and Stephanie Frank, Author "NetProfits: The Complete and Simple System for Online Success", and Bobbi McKenna, Author "The Million Dollar Woman". For more information visit www.newentrepreneurs.com and visit the Events page or call Christine Kloser at 310.745.0794.

November 13: Tarzana, CA
Manifesting Wealth with Debbie Friedman
Learn the amazing nine-step process for manifesting that will change your life forever! This process was discovered on an unlabelled audiocassette in November 2002 and is now available to you! Learn the process and experience the magic of the guided experience. For registration and more information, click here.
$40 workshop fee includes a copy of the book Manifesting Made Easy and the Manifesting: The Step-by-Step Process for the Secret of Success CD.

The Hand Analysis Intensive Teleclass with Beth Davis
Learn how to identify your own life purpose and life lesson in your fingerprints, your emotional style through your heart lines, and discover how the zones of your fingers reveal your personality and various skills and challenges. After you complete this 12-week workshop you will know definitively what your life purpose is and have the clarity to bring it into fulfillment!
$495 course fee includes the 12-week telecourse, database and printing kit
For more information contact Beth at info@handanalyst.com or call her toll-free at 877.783.3494.


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