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Issue Date: June 20, 2004

Ø "WHAT THE #$*! DO WE KNOW?!!??"



Lately I have been absolutely fascinated with the stories people have been telling themselves. More importantly, I've been amazed by the way these stories manifest in their lives!

Let me give you an example. I had the chance to talk to someone I hadn't seen for almost 25 years. For convenience, let's call him John. (The name has been changed to protect the innocence.) We talked for two hours and John was saying almost EXACTLY the same things he said back then. "I don't have any money," "I have had to work 5 jobs," "I'm supporting my wife because she refuses to work," "I can't afford to take a vacation," and the list went on. The truth is, I remember when he told his first wife that if she took a job she'd been offered, their marriage would be over because "his wife didn't work." Needless to say, the marriage ended quickly and John moved on to number 2 to complete his belief.

In the life John has created, he is the victim, he is burdened, he is constantly poor and deprived because he has to support others, there is never enough, and he is always ending up on the short end of the stick. John is living his life as someone who is deprived and unfulfilled, at the mercy of the world.

Catherine, on the other hand, has an entirely different story. (Here the name has been changed for professional privacy.) When we started working together, her story was somewhat the same, or at least running along those same lines. Her life was full of stress, she was feeling overwhelmed by her things-to-do list, and she was frustrated with the lack of significant progress in her life. She quickly grabbed onto the ways to shift her beliefs and in a short time was creating quite a different reality for herself. Television and radio show appearances coming to her, discounts on room rentals for meetings, a team to support her success, money flowing into her accounts, new clients paying in advance, a book deal wrapped up, and greater harmony and peace in her own life. As Catherine relaxed into the grace of the creative process, she gained a sense of calm that opened the floodgates for all of her good to flow to her, easily and almost effortlessly. At last report, she had hosted an event that was her most successful ever from all perspectives (including the profits!), and all with the ease that allowed the Universe to relieve the sense of "struggle" and "stress" she'd created in the past.

She has made the shift from human "doing" to human "being" she is "in the flow" and the results are remarkable!

When we are "in the flow," we are drawn to our good or our good is attracted to us.

Does anyone remember the movie "Groundhog Day" with Bill Murray? Every day Bill's character, Phil, would wake up and find himself trapped in a kind of nightmare: the same people saying the same things, the same events happening . He felt he was going nuts as he had to repeat the same things day after day after day.

It was fascinating to watch Phil make different choices in experimenting ways to change the day and to break the cycle. Ultimately, the only thing he could change was himself, his actions and his attitudes. When he discovered that and created a life full of joy, love, and service as he truly made a difference in the lives of those around him, the chain was broken and Phil was set free.

Did this ring a bell with anyone else out there? Have you ever felt you were watching the same scenes unfold in your life day after day, year after year? Oh, yes, the names, places, and faces may change, but the events and circumstances remain the same.

It's intriguing and it's a powerful lesson to remember as we look at the stories we tell ourselves in our own lives. I don't know about you, but there's a part of me that feels sorry for the people who keep re-creating the same experiences in their lives time and again. They just don't know any different -- they don't know that they're really in control and create whatever life they choose.

Now, for those of you who have been reading this newsletter for a while, and especially for those who have taken a workshop or seminar with me, you DO know. You KNOW that you are in charge. You KNOW that you create your life by what you think, by what you focus on, and by what you give emotional energy to.

Manifesting is a right, but it's also a responsibility. If you look around your life and aren't absolutely thrilled with some part of it, ask yourself now: What am I thinking, saying, or doing to create this in my life?

In other words, what stories are you telling yourself and others? What would you have to believe to be true in order to have this person, place, or thing in your life?

Change your story, change your belief, and change your life.

As Wallace Wattles writes in The Science of Getting Rich, "...people get rich by doing things in a certain way, and in order to do so, people must become able to think in a certain way. A person's way of doing things is the direct result of the way he thinks about things. To do things in the way you want to do them, you will have to acquire the ability to think the way you want to think. This is the first step toward getting rich. And to think what you want to think is to think TRUTH, regardless of appearances."

It's just that simple. If you've told yourself or someone else the same story more than three times, take a close look at that story and make sure it's what you choose to create for your life. If it's not, consciously choose to tell a different story !

It's important, too, that you begin to think, say, and do things that match up to support your choices. This is also called being congruent. For example, if you think and affirm, "I AM a success!," walk around and tell people "I AM a success!," and then run with fear every time an opportunity presents itself for you to move forward, you are not matching your actions with what you're consciously thinking and saying! You are not being congruent!

Here's another example that might hit closer to home for some of you. If you are affirming the belief "I am financially free" (or something similar) and you go into a state of panic or terror when it comes time to pay your bills, you are not matching your thoughts and words with your actions. You are not being congruent! Worst yet, by entering into that state of worry, doubt, or fear, you are actually driving away whatever financial abundance was coming to you!

YOU are the author, the creator, of your life. What story do you choose to write?

You CAN have anything that you choose in life, so choose the very best. YOU deserve it!

With prosperity and blessings,

Debbie Friedman, C.Ht.


For information on Debbie's Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind CDs and books, click here.


"Everyone and everything that shows up in our life comes to us by vibrational attraction. When you are vibrating at a particular frequency, you draw to yourself all that is in harmony with that frequency. That is why it is useless to try to force the universe to do anything. The level at which human force operates is puny, trivial, and impotent in light of the mighty strength of Spirit to manifest your highest good without struggle on your part.

If you want to attract the right job, mate, or living situation, give up fighting to make it happen. Instead bring yourself into vibrational harmony with the object of your desire. In meditation, prayer, and affirmation, visualize and feel your oneness with the thing you want. When you are energetically unified with your vision, the universe will lay it at your doorstep in miraculous ways."

-  Alan Cohen, A Deep Breath of Life



If you haven't heard of this movie yet, I'm encouraging you to open your ears, your eyes, and your mind. "What the Bleep Do We Know?" is a movie that will expand your consciousness to understand more clearly what we know about quantum physics and how our world REALLY works!!!

Do you want to know how your life is created? This is the stuff I've been talking about, the way you create life by tapping into the power of the universe through the quantum field through your thoughts, consciously or unconsciously.

Marlee Matlin stars in this movie that powerfully blends cutting-edge science with spirituality. Here's a quote from the promos: "In the story, Matlin's character finds herself in a fantastic Alice in Wonderland experience. Her uninspired life unravels, revealing the uncertain world of what physicists call the quantum field, hidden behind normal, waking reality. She is plunged into a chaotic crisis, questioning the premises of her life, ultimately discovering that the reality she has believed in isn't reality at all!"

For those in Los Angeles, "What the Bleep Do We Know?" starts Friday June 18th at the Beverly Center . To purchase tickets, visit www.fandango.com . To find out more about the movie, visit www.whatthebleep.com.

And most of all --HAVE FUN!!!


"It does not serve you or the world for you to behave as if you are powerless. It is an insult to the Creator of your life, in whose image and likeness you were created, for you to bow or bend down to conditions and situations that are beneath you. It is arrogant of you to assume that you are incapable because you don't believe you are capable.

Until today, you may have believed that money is power, education is power, or that the things that you can do make you more or less powerful. Just for today, know that you are powerful. Stand up in your power! Embrace your power! Serve the world by bringing your power into your life. Start by being grateful for the power you have been given and are using free of charge!"

      - Iyanla Vanzant, Until Today!



Okay, so I love to tell stories about myself. I used a manifesting technique on a Sunday night and the results began to roll in. Monday morning I got a call for a radio talk show. Tuesday I got an email for 2 paid speaking engagements. By Wednesday I had 3 new clients, and by Thursday I had 4. When I left to visit my dad that Friday morning, I just thought maybe the Universe had missed the mark since I had specified "5 new clients this week" on my list. Saturday my dad gave me a big check ("large sums of money coming to me under grace in a perfect way") and split his coin collection between my brother and me. As my mastermind group knows, I regularly envision gold coins raining down on me, so this was particularly wonderful! When I got home Monday, I picked up a message left Friday at 6:40 p.m. from someone who wanted to buy my CDs (new client #5!!!). Everything that was on my list was delivered perfectly, easily, and effortlessly. All I had to do was be ready, willing, and able to receive!!! Then, be grateful and celebrate!

Yes, YOUR life can be that easy, that full of joy, and that abundant!!!

There are now three ways for you to begin to manifest magic in your own life!

- The Manifesting Made Easy Workshop held each Monday night in Pacific Palisades for eight weeks. This is a small group setting limited to 6 participants so that everyone receives individualized attention. For more information, visit this web page . To register, call Debbie at 310.230.0872.

- The Manifesting Made Easy Super Succes s Kit is a home study course that includes a one-hour private telephone consultation. Ideal for those who are out of the area or have a busy schedule! For more information, see our shop .

- The Manifesting Made Easy Teleclass Series of eight conference calls with a limited group to allow for personalized coaching. This series includes the Manifesting Made Easy Super Success Kit and a one-hour private telephone consultation. For more information on this series, call Debbie at 310.230.0872.

The workshop series, the kit, and the teleclass series all include 5 books, 9 CDs, and the guidance to help you learn how to use all the tools.

If you're ready to create true wealth and success in your life, your opportunity may be right around the corner. Call to reserve your place today.


"Every individual has the natural and inherent power to think what he wants to think, but it requires far more effort to do so than it does to think the thoughts that are suggested by appearances. To think according to appearances is easy; to think truth regardless of appearances is laborious and requires the expenditure of more power than any other work we are called upon to perform.

There is no labor from which most people shrink as they do from that of sustained and consecutive thought. It is the hardest work in the world. This is especially true when truth is contrary to appearances."

   - Wallace Wattles, The Science of Getting Rich


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