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ISSUE DATE: July, 2005





Last month I wrote about the power of the music that we listen to. This month I'm going to dive right in to the power of our mind.

Some of you may remember a show called "Name That Tune" where contestants would identify a song with just a few notes to win the game!

Now, your mind works that way in all areas of your life, anticipating "right" answers, completing the stories of your life before they've played out, recreating experiences and memories based on the very tiniest pieces of information.

Smells from a bakery, the sound of laughter, a child's hug, a walk in the woods, a voice raised in anger, a particular look or sound, a puppy's breath, trigger memories that can take us back in time almost instantaneously.

You have an incredibly powerful computer that is serving you 24 hours a day whether you're aware of it or not! According to research presented by Dr. Joe Dispenza, we process 4 billion bits of information every second and yet our conscious minds are only aware of 2,000 bits of information per second.

That's a lot of information that we're constantly drawing in and yet our subconscious minds are collecting the vast majority! So, we are equipped with a large storehouse of information that we've been gathering over the years to navigate the world with, to help us survive, and to hopefully support us in living happy, fulfilling lives.

The TV show Blues Clues was developed based on research that showed that children learn through stories, that being actively involved in being able to answer the "clues" was essential, and that the law of repetition was highly effective because the children could anticipate the answer before it was asked!

If we are living unconsciously as adults, our subconscious mind simply takes over by operating from the stories and completions that we learned through repetition in our early years. In effect, almost with a blink of an eye, we may find ourselves responding to small signs and signals from the past that may have nothing at all to do with the situation in front of us in the present!

Are you ready for something else?

The New York Times published an article that is profoundly important to us all ("What Other People Say May Change What You See", June 28, 2005). The results of recent brain research, confirming a 1950s study, showed the powerful need for social conformity. People gave wrong answers to questions to conform with the responses of their group!

As Dr. Gregory Berns said, "We like to think that seeing is believing", but "seeing is believing what the group tells you to believe." The study used brain scanners to show that people who went along with the group on wrong answers were not making conscious decisions but were making their decision based on emotions, or their subconscious beliefs.

There is clearly a high cost on an unconscious level for standing up for yourself. In other words, "the unpleasantness of standing alone can make a majority opinion seem more appealing than sticking to one's own beliefs."

The article ended, however, by stating "if people are made aware of their vulnerability, they may be able to avoid conforming to social pressure when it is not in their self-interest."

It's important to be aware that what you think, say, or do may be based on an almost tribal memory or primal instinct to fit in - to belong - to be part of the group! We all have an inner desire to be "home", feeling appreciated, accepted, safe, and loved.

And it's also important to remember that in the creative realm, what you believe is what you see!

It's critical that we become aware of the unconscious choices we are making in our lives, so that we can become conscious creators. All change begins with awareness.

So, maybe it's time to "come home" to your Self to discover what your heart desires, what makes you feel good inside, what makes you happy, what allows you to express your magnificent, empowered identity in the world. Maybe it's even time to ask yourself who you're trying to conform with or what group you're trying to belong to. Maybe it's time to begin to give the answers that you know are right for you, the ones that resonate with you and that represent what you consciously know to be your truth. Maybe it's time to honor your own best interests.

This is the beginning of true freedom. As you do, you release yourself from the bondage of old thought habits and behaviors that just aren't working for you anymore, the beliefs that no longer apply. You can let go of the past and live fully in the present. You can live at choice to mindfully participate in manifesting the life of your dreams by focusing on what you truly desire and the gifts you're here to share.

With this power, you can move forward in embracing every day with confidence, joy, peace, harmony, love, and true freedom as you create your life of limitless success!

YOU deserve it!!!

To your wealth and success,

Debbie Friedman, C.Ht.


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"The freedom we are looking for is the freedom to be ourselves, to express ourselves. But if we look at our lives we will see that most of the time we do things just to please others, just to be accepted by others, rather than living our lives to please ourselves. That is what has happened to our freedom. And we see in our society and all the societies around the world, that for every thousand people, nine hundred and ninety-nine are completely domesticated. The worst part is that most of us are not even aware that we are not free."

- don Miguel Ruiz in The Four Agreements



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Thank you all for being such an amazing gift in my life!


"So, from this moment on, never, ever accept reality as something to which you must resign yourself. Take your thoughts beyond whatever is in front of your nose that you don't like and put them on what you do like. If you don't, your so-called reality will never change. Granted, some ugly things may be glaring you in the face right now, or threatening you, or looking like a hopeless situation, but they are not set in stone! They must never be reluctantly tolerated."

- Lynn Grabhorn in Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting



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"So it is essential to bring more consciousness into your life in ordinary situations when everything is going relatively smoothly. In this way, you grow in presence power. It generates an energy field in you and around you of a high vibrational frequency. No unconsciousness, no negativity, no discord or violence can enter that field and survive, just as darkness cannot survive in the presence of light."

- Eckhart Tolle in The Power of NOW


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