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ISSUE DATE: October, 2005





Imagine for a moment that you are driving in your car on your way to work or some other place you drive to frequently. Allow yourself to get in touch with the feeling of moving forward safely to your destination, keeping your eyes focused on the road ahead through the wide, open expanse of your front windshield as you see clearly the road ahead that you have chosen to travel.

Now, shift that vision and imagine that everyone on the road (including yourself!) is focused on their rearview mirror! Instead of keeping their eyes on the road ahead, can you imagine what would happen if everyone was constantly focused on what was behind them on the road they'd already traveled?

Chaos, confusion, running into obstacles, accidents galore, and no one (including YOU!) would be getting to the destination they'd set out to reach.

There are times when we may do that very same thing in our lives. With our focus on the past, asking "Why?" or "What if?", replaying scenes to try to create a different outcome, we become obsessed with what we coulda, woulda or shoulda done or said.

When we are focused on the past, we cannot see our future.

Remember, what we focus on expands, what we give emotional energy to comes back to us multiplied. So, if you are focusing on the past you are re-living, re-experiencing, and in the process re-creating those events in your life.

The names and faces, dates and places, may change but the circumstances and the basic story remains the same.

Generally, in this mode, we find ourselves taking on the victim role and coming up with countless ways to distract ourselves from taking responsibility for our lives. Effectively, we place ourselves at the mercy of people, places, things, or circumstances.

As a conscious creator, you can no longer afford to operate in this illusion. You can no longer afford to give your power away. You CAN, on the other hand, allow yourself to make different choices.

You can allow yourself to have the courage to face your feelings and look objectively at your past to find the lesson that you've been given the opportunity to learn, gain the wisdom that is there, and shift your beliefs so that you can move forward in your life with true power and confidence and strength. From this new perspective you can see the gift that you've been given to be even greater than you were before!

You can look forward, creating the vision for your life that is full of joy, love, prosperity, success, and freedom!

One woman wrote to tell me of her own victory over limiting beliefs that had held her back from getting a new car. "After the first call with you about cleaning out the closets of my mind, I decided to 'go for it'! I created a vision of myself going to the dealership, test driving the car I wanted and signing my name on the title! I played it over and over." Frustrated by what seemed to be financial blocks to her success, she continued, "I felt pathetic. After crying myself to sleep I woke up the next morning determined not to let the 'pathetic me' sap all my new progress… Saturday morning I drove to the dealership in my old hunk of junk…and left with my new car!"

The truth is that we all make mistakes. And, yet, a mistake is NOT a failure. Webster's Dictionary defines a mistake as "an error in action, calculation, opinion, or judgment caused by poor reasoning, carelessness, insufficient information, etc." If you'd known better, you would have done better.

So, let's reframe the word "mistake" and make it a "missed take" instead.

In the entertainment industry, it's actually very common for a "take", or the filming of a show, to be "missed". In fact, those are the very moments when the movie or the tv show becomes even better because the missed take is reviewed, necessary changes are made, and then the scene is re-done to incorporate their new understanding and the wisdom they've gained!

Do they just throw up their hands, send everyone home and stop filming the production? NO! They simply learn the lessons and do it better the next time.

In our own lives, we need to do the same. We need to let go of blame, shame, criticism, complaints, judgments, and finding excuses or what sounds like plausible "reasons" for our behavior or circumstances.

In short - we need to put away the whips and chains, and we need to look at ourselves with gentle and loving kindness, knowing that we are here in the great playground of life to take risks, to experiment, to make mistakes, to experience life fully, and to try out different options when we feel the need for change.

We need to take in the fact that everything is happening perfectly in our lives. We need to look in our rearview mirror just long enough to learn the lesson, and then let go and grow!

Did you learn that you are stronger than you could ever have imagined? Did you learn that you need to set better boundaries? Did you learn to honor yourself and express who you are? Did you learn to make different choices that will please you? Did you learn to trust your inner guidance and intuition? Did you learn to trust your Self?

Another woman wrote to share her story of conscious creation. "I don't accept my own excuses anymore. I manifested big ticket items this month…a trip with travel and lodging paid to Maui, video camera, iPod, and a visit from my sister at my home! It's a wonderful life!"

Here are some tips to take back control of your life and move forward to freedom:

1. If you are feeling pain, sadness, anger, frustration, or loss set aside a specific amount of time to allow yourself to fully experience the feelings. This may be 15 minutes, 1 hour, a day, or a week. When this time is up, reflect on the situation to find the lesson you have been given the opportunity to learn! Find the gift you have been given by this life experience!

If you have experienced a major loss or life transition, be gentle with yourself. Take time to process the event fully, and seek out the support you need and deserve.

2. If you're looking in your rearview mirror, it may be time to review your missed takes. Take out a piece of paper, title it "Learning the Lesson" and then divide it down the middle. At the top of the left hand column, write "Mistakes I've made in this lifetime". At the top of the right hand column, write "What did I learn from this experience? How did it serve me?" Then, learn the lesson, find the wisdom, see the gift!

3. Forgive yourself for even thinking that you ever made a mistake. Forgive others for the part they played in your life lesson. Much has been written on the power of forgiveness, but the bottom line is you forgive others to set yourself free.

4. If you're feeling attacked by the nagging, negative voice in your head, get up out of your seat and go on a Gratitude Walk! That's right! Start to walk and express gratitude for every thing in your life from the top of your head to the tip of your toes, for every thing around you! When you are grateful, you cannot be hateful. When you are in a state of gratitude, you cannot be in worry, doubt, or fear. In fact, gratitude lifts your vibration to a higher level, and you effectively repel negativity so you not only feel better but you automatically attract positive experiences to you!

5. Ask for a miracle! Ask for a demonstration that the Universe is supporting you absolutely and ask for it to come in a way that you will recognize it! Remember, the Universe is friendly to your plans and loves to delight and excite you! Ask for your miracle, expect it to show up in a wonderful way, and then get ready to receive!

YOU deserve it!

To your wealth and success,

Debbie Friedman, C.Ht.


For information on Debbie's Cleaning Out the Closet of Your Mind
CDs and books, click here.


"The only reason a person does not have the life they want is that somewhere in the back of their mind, they don't believe they deserve it! They don't believe they are worthy of it! Which is why they will not take responsibility for making it happen. Until today, you may have been trying to figure out how to turn your life around. Just for today, examine the reasons, excuses, limitations you may be holding on to. Take responsibility for getting rid of them."

- Iyanla Vanzant in Until Today!



Has anyone out there felt challenged by the nagging, negative, critical inner voice that is almost constantly telling you you're not good enough, you're not doing enough, you're not worthy, you don't deserve, or sometimes simply "who the heck do you think you are to ask for so much?"

If you have been, then ACCEPT THE CHALLENGE and step up to the plate to change!!!

Remember, you mind is literal. It does not have a sense of humor, does not know true from false, and does not know fact from fantasy. All it knows is what you tell it! So, take the step today to start telling yourself good news!!!

My Cleaning Out The Closet Of Your Mind For Wealth CDs are powerful tools for releasing limiting beliefs and reprogramming your inner voice to set you free to enjoy a life of true wealth and unlimited success!!! AND THIS MONTH I'M MAKING IT EVEN EASIER FOR YOU TO CREATE THE CHANGES THAT YOU DESIRE AND DESERVE!

Clearing out old beliefs and programming, increasing self-confidence and self-esteem, removing blocks to your success, gaining freedom from fear, attracting abundance, magnetizing wealth, focusing your future vision, and connecting with intuition and wisdom! Every CD uses proven techniques and special background music that allows you to relax, release, and let go of the old stuff that's held you back in the past, and fills your mind with new, powerful, positive beliefs for creating the life you love to live!

Orlando from Arizona wrote to share his success in letting go of ideas of limitation that set him free to find his dream home. "I sat down one Sunday morning after searching the valley for a home to buy and live in. It seemed I was hitting dead-ends and no results. It dawned on me I was picking homes that were less than what I had mentally and visually created. As I reflected on my past actions, I remembered my meditation sessions with your CD. As I replayed the CD in my mind, I saw the gold stair railings to enter down into a deeper level of relaxation, and I remembered the golden beam of light shining down.

It was then that it all came to me! In a flash I saw what I was doing and why I was getting the results of rejection every time. I was looking at homes in areas of lesser and lesser quality. The word 'GOLD' entered my mind at lightning speed, and the next few minutes changed the way I would look for a new home. I had not entertained 'GOLD Canyon' because I had envisioned the area as too expensive. But calmly I opened the real estate website that I had access to. The first home I saw in 'GOLD Canyon' was so beautiful and just what I had always wanted. 14 days later I was moving in and could not have been happier."

If you're ready for your great success, I'm making it even easier to get started this month (and you may even do some holiday shopping that will make a difference in the lives of those you care about)!

ORDER 3 CDS AND GET ONE FREE! That's right! You get to choose!!! It's a 25% discount that is available for every order placed through November 30, 2005.

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Give yourself the gift of a life that is full and full-filled with peace, joy, love, celebration, abundance, and prosperity! YOU deserve it!!!


"The biggest battle going on every day is between your own ears. We talk ourselves in and out of situations constantly. Put a stop to this. When that little negative voice in the back of your head demands attention and tries to get to the forefront of your thinking, take a time-out. Give yourself a quick mental pep talk. Focus on the benefits and rewards of sticking to your priorities, and remind yourself of the negative consequences if you don't."

- The Power of Focus



By popular request, I will be offering two of your favorite tele-classes once again! Cleaning Out The Closet Of Your Mind will take place on November 16th and Manifesting Made Easy will be offered on December 14th! To sign up and reserve your place now, click here.


"When the results we seek do not come about, it is not because the universe is incapable of delivering them; we may not be ready or willing to receive them. We may harbor doubts about our worthiness; we may have bought into the limitation thoughts of others; we may fear that our life will change if we succeed; or we may hold some subconscious belief that we need to suffer to be happy. None of these notions are true, and we must rid them from our consciousness to make way for the success we desire."

- Alan Cohen in A Deep Breath of Life


You can contact Debbie Friedman, C.Ht. at debbie@cleaningoutthecloset.com or contact her directly at (310) 230-0872.


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Pacific Palisades, CA 90272
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